If you’re looking for a life partner, chances are you want someone who’s honest, loyal, thoughtful and caring. But what about the subtler details? Here are 12 less than obvious traits that women who are looking for a keeper should keep in mind when looking for husband material.
1. He is not intimidated by your success
A man worth keeping is secure about himself and will not only support your success, but also celebrate it. He will praise your efforts and be there to lend an ear when you fall. He will share in your joys and be there to help pick you up. Your success will be about you, not about him.
2. He values gender equality.
He is comfortable in the kitchen and doesn’t feel emasculated by running the vacuum. He can handle you mowing the yard, changing the oil, or washing the vehicles. He can be a bread-winner or a stay at home father. A man’s true views on gender roles often tell a lot about his personality and relationship style.
3. He is considerate.
Men who aren’t so great about doing their fair share around the house claim that they don’t see dishes in the sink, scattered toys or clothes on the floor. Men who notice details in their environment have that extra bit of awareness needed to be full contributors in a household.
4. He likes to dream, and sometime big.
Does your guy dream about the perfect vacation, the second house on the beach, a house full of kids or any other fabulous plans? Thinking and dreaming big suggests that he has goals, ambitions and fun in his future. If he’s all about practicality and simple stability he might not be the guy to help you fulfill your wildest dreams and fantasies. Life’s too short for that.
5. He is a realistic optimist.
Sick kids, sleepless nights, financial stress, aging parents and your own mortality can chip away at anyone’s optimism. A partner who is a natural optimist can help you through those tough times with big doses of hope, laughter and a big picture outlook on life.
6. He uses the word “we”.
When speaking about future plans he includes you in them. You know that he is serious about you and not just having fun for the moment.
7. He lives like an adult.
He has his own apartment or house, no roommate situations, is settled in his career and is done with his party days.
8. He treats you like a lady.
The way he treats people, including his friends and family, especially his mother, is a good indicator of what kind of husband he will be.
10. He remembers the little things.
Any guy will remember your birthday. The guy who remembers the little things, especially, is a true keeper. If he’s paying attention to the little things you say and do, you can be sure he won’t ignore things that are important to you.
11. He offers to help without you asking.
If he is willing to go out of his way to help you, without you having to ask, you’ll know he truly cares about you. You’ll be able to count on him as a true partner.
12. He’s attracted to you (with or without the extra 10 pounds).
Our bodies change over time, especially post-pregnancy. If you’ve found a guy who loves your body in any form, you’ll feel much more secure in the relationship over the long term.